Sevina, Sevina, Sevina!
Sevina is "special". She is not like most children. She doesn't have anything that can be diagnosed by a doctor, but I know 100% that she is "more" then most children. Something known as Spirited. Sevina is Spirited.
She is 100% more curious than any 2yo you've met. She is 100% more daring. She is a diabolical genius, and will find a way to do what it is she "needs" to do. Things that 99% of the people with 2yo's couldn't imagine their kid doing.
She isn't "bad," she is just wired differently.
She gets plenty of attention. She gets plenty of structure, discipline, routine, and affection. She has 2 sisters who are very close in age to her, and live under the same roof and rules, and they won't act this way (I'm hoping for J's sake that Keira doesn't LOL)
I honestly believe- if you weren't blessed with a child like Sevina, you just CAN'T comprehend. You can try- but it is impossible to truly get it until you've lived with it.
And there is no "fixing" her. Number one, there is not anything that is "broken." But #2, you wouldn't want to change her.
She is going to be AMAZING as a young adult, and a grown woman. She has been given GIFTS. Her mind is a wonder to behold.
She isn't just a "smart kid," she is a problem solver, and adventurer, a brave and daring soul. She is determined and she has to have results.
The best thing that parents can do is accept these gifts, and try to alter the way WE think. Prevent dangerous situations, and learn to pick our battles.
It's really hard, too. Especially when your first child was NOTHING like the 2nd, and everyone around you believes that you just can't "handle" a little bitty kid.
I have a very hard time trying to explain her to people. I am still learning about her and coming up with the right words to describe her. I try to explain her to people and most just don't get it. Everyone underestimates her which could be very dangerous. Even my sisters who have heard me talk about her for years both underestimated her when they have recently visited. My own husband lives with her and he still underestimates her at times. It is tiring to keep up with her, but it is a joy to watch her grow.
Explaining her uniqueness is very difficult. I have a girlfriend who has a child just like Sevina. Her daughter is wonderful. her spirit for life is amazing. I love to watch, but I don't live with her. Her Mom has taught me so much about our amazing daughters. And recently she wrote this about Sevina. She explains Sevina perfectly. Thank you Krysta...
It isn't really "behavior." It is just the way Sevina is. (and Lucy could be her older twin, which is why I feel comfy jumping in here)
She is 100% more curious than any 2yo you've met. She is 100% more daring. She is a diabolical genius, and will find a way to do what it is she "needs" to do. Things that 99% of the people with 2yo's couldn't imagine their kid doing.
She fixates on things. You can tell her no, explain why she can't do something, but don't dare turn your back! She doesn't forget, and she really NEEDS to go through with her thought process- no matter what mom said.
She isn't "bad," she is just wired differently.
She gets plenty of attention. She gets plenty of structure, discipline, routine, and affection. She has 2 sisters who are very close in age to her, and live under the same roof and rules, and they won't act this way (I'm hoping for J's sake that Keira doesn't LOL)
I honestly believe- if you weren't blessed with a child like Sevina, you just CAN'T comprehend. You can try- but it is impossible to truly get it until you've lived with it.
And there is no "fixing" her. Number one, there is not anything that is "broken." But #2, you wouldn't want to change her.
She is going to be AMAZING as a young adult, and a grown woman. She has been given GIFTS. Her mind is a wonder to behold.
She isn't just a "smart kid," she is a problem solver, and adventurer, a brave and daring soul. She is determined and she has to have results.
The best thing that parents can do is accept these gifts, and try to alter the way WE think. Prevent dangerous situations, and learn to pick our battles.
It's really hard, too. Especially when your first child was NOTHING like the 2nd, and everyone around you believes that you just can't "handle" a little bitty kid.
I think you've always had a great attitude about Sevina and her antics! I've always admired that!
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Aww... I'm glad you liked my description. I really want people to undestand how special our kids are, instead of slapping a label on them (or us!).
I really love both of our sweet, spunky, spirited girls!
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What a precious girl indeed! I hope when she is older, she will find this post and read it knowing how much you care for her and her sweet, unique spirit. Great writing, Pink Mama!
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